Some men plop down on their knee and ask the magical "Will you marry me" question within a year of dating, while some are still taking things slow after five. It's hard to put a time stamp on everything, least of all relationships. And there's no right or wrong standard -- it really depends on the couple.
But as you're waiting for your guy to pop the question, how do you know that he's really in it for the long haul? Look for these signs that say he's ready to spend the rest of his life with you.
1. He's keen on couple time
If he's ditching time with the guys in favor of being with you, it's a sign that he's strongly committed to the relationship. It's not healthy to spend 24/7 together though, so there should be some balance between spending time with you and having outside interests to focus on.
2. He respects you
Does he listen to what you have to say? Is he willing to compromise to keep you happy? These are signs that he's respectful of you and cares about your feelings.
3. You're making long term plans together
When he discusses his future, does he speak solely about himself or include you in his potential plans? If he's talking more about "me" than "us", it suggests that he's not thinking about your relationship in the long term. If you're already actively making long term plans like buying a home, rest assured that most men won't want to enter into this kind of commitment without being completely sure that you're going to stay together.
4. He's getting his finances in order
Men often like to be financially secure before they feel comfortable making a long term commitment so if he's started looking at pension plans and other long term financial provisions, there's a good chance that he's preparing for a future that doesn't only involve himself.
5. You're always on the guest list for family events
Regularly being invited to spend time with his close family is a sign that he wants you to be involved in his world. Most guys wait until they're sure that the relationship has a future before they start introducing you to family and friends so it's a promising sign if you're a regular fixture at family gatherings. On a similar note, it's a good sign if he's also making a big effort to be involved with your family and friends as it shows that he wants both of you to play an important role in each other's lives.
6. He does a lot of the running
Does he take the initiative a lot in the relationship or is it you who's doing all of the work?
7. His friends are settling down
Peer pressure can be a big factor in influencing when a man is ready to make a long term commitment. If most or all of his friends are making trips down the aisle, he may decide that it's high time he did the same.
喜欢忙碌之余静静地坐在电脑前，在音乐和文字里沉醉，让思绪自由自在漫无边际地飞舞。咖啡是不能没有的，就像离不开香烟的味道。一个人的世界里，肆意挥霍着喜怒哀乐，管他你是谁我是谁，都无所谓。
喜欢这样恬淡舒适的生活，用适合自己的音符编织属于自己的节拍，如果可以，弹奏出来的一定是最美的钢琴曲，陶醉其中，只愿长醉不愿醒。
喜欢现在的自己，越来越从容，越来越淡定。不被诱惑，不被打扰。风花雪月早已远离，留下的只是安宁与平和。不再情话绵绵，因为我知道，那只是偶然兑现的谎言。只有深情永远，因为我们明白，那是我们都会担起的重担。
偶尔一个人的时候，小狂欢，偶尔一群人的时候，小孤单。不是不合群，而是率性使然。既然是故友，就不必在意，忽略我的小缺点，我就是这样啊，能给你们带来快乐，时不时的也制造一点麻烦，抱歉抱歉。
叶散的时候，明白欢聚，花谢的时候，明白青春。如今，该落幕的已落幕，该看开的已看开。忘掉该忘记的，记住该记住的。举杯应尽欢，发愤忘食，乐以忘忧，不知老之将至是多么的高尚和幸福！
感谢一路走来你的陪伴。曾经只想找一个在我失意时可以承受我的眼泪，在我快乐时可以让我咬一口的肩膀，结果却超出我的预料。你是我的宝。红尘十丈，茫茫人海，牵手同行。从此，便是风淡云轻，细水长流，从此，便是日出日落，碧海无波。。。
既然缘起也会缘散，管他来世在哪里，管他来世你是谁我是谁，不是还有现在的每一天？用无限柔情享受着你的呵护和关爱，到了归去的时候，心无挂碍的挥挥手，笑着道一声再见。
哪有那么多的愁眉苦脸？偶尔的不和谐只是老天赐予我们的磨练。心怀坦然的去接受，要知道，阳光总在风雨后，风雨后的路会越走越宽，越走越远。
闲暇之余别忘了一起坐下喝杯茶，和我说说你的累你的好。虽然不能给你太大的帮助，却会做你最忠实的听众。你尝试我灵机一动的小主意小点子，我分享你成功之后的喜悦和尖叫。
不需要花前月下的浪漫，那只是一时的烟花灿烂。只期望年年岁岁的守候，风里雨里的相伴。这才是真情，才会久远。
倚天照海花无数，流水山高心自知。
其实，幸福不过如此简单。
有一天﹐
兒子問爸爸: 爸爸, 不爽﹐生氣﹐抓狂﹐哭笑不得的分別是甚麼意思﹖
爸爸﹕要解釋很難﹐不如讓我來示範。
首先﹐爸爸拿了一本電話簿﹐隨機選出一個人。然後打電話給那個人。順便把電話調到擴音器模式。
VICTIM﹕HELLO﹖
爸爸﹕HELLO﹐ 請問ABDULLAH BADAWI在家嗎﹖
VICTIM﹕你打錯電話啦﹗
爸﹕你不要騙我啦﹗
VICTIM﹕我騙你幹嘛﹗神經病﹗(蓋了電話)
爸﹕哪﹐兒子﹐這個就是 "不爽"。現在來看甚麼是生氣。
(兒子點頭)
(過了5分鐘﹐爸爸再打一次電話給那個人)
VICTIM﹕HELLO﹖
爸﹕請問ABDULLAH BADAWI有在家嗎﹖
VICTIM﹕怎麼又是你﹖都跟你講了你打錯電話了﹗
爸﹕我沒打錯電話啊﹗
VICTIM﹕你這個神經病﹐你到底是誰﹖
爸﹕我是誰你還不懂﹖我是NAJIB啦﹗
VICTIM﹕%^&*$#@﹗你是NAJIB我還ANWAR咧﹗白痴﹗(大力蓋電話)
爸﹕哪﹐兒子。這個就是"生氣"。懂了嗎﹖
兒子﹕喔我懂了﹗
爸﹕現在來看下甚麼是抓狂﹗
(又打電話給那個可憐的人) 那個人一拿起電話就咆哮了﹗
VICTIM﹕你這個吃飽沒事做的神經病﹗整天打電話來干擾我﹐要不是我的電話沒有CALLER ID我早就報警了你這個變態佬。。。。
爸﹕(刻意壓低聲音)ERM。。。。請問林先生在嗎。。。。﹖
VICTIM﹕啊﹗很對不起﹗剛剛有個變態一直打電話來。。。
爸﹕喔﹐沒關係﹐請問ABDULLAH BADAWI在家嗎﹖
VICTIM﹕##$W$#^^%$E$%^$&^%R%^$^&%^$^%$﹗﹗﹗﹗﹗
這一次﹐爸爸蓋上了電話。
爸﹕你現在知道分別了吧﹗等下你媽媽要回來了﹐我們可以吃晚餐了﹗
兒子﹕可是爸爸﹐你還沒有講解甚麼是哭笑不得﹖
爸﹕喔﹐那個要等到晚上12點啦﹗
(晚上12點﹐爸爸搖醒兒子﹐然後又打電話給那個人)
VICTIM﹕HELLO。。。。。﹖(睡到一半被吵醒)
爸﹕我是ABDULLAH BADAWI﹐有誰打電話找我啊﹖
VICTIM﹕。。。。。。。。。。。。
爸爸好厲害啊﹗
兒子問爸爸: 爸爸, 不爽﹐生氣﹐抓狂﹐哭笑不得的分別是甚麼意思﹖
爸爸﹕要解釋很難﹐不如讓我來示範。
首先﹐爸爸拿了一本電話簿﹐隨機選出一個人。然後打電話給那個人。順便把電話調到擴音器模式。
VICTIM﹕HELLO﹖
爸爸﹕HELLO﹐ 請問ABDULLAH BADAWI在家嗎﹖
VICTIM﹕你打錯電話啦﹗
爸﹕你不要騙我啦﹗
VICTIM﹕我騙你幹嘛﹗神經病﹗(蓋了電話)
爸﹕哪﹐兒子﹐這個就是 "不爽"。現在來看甚麼是生氣。
(兒子點頭)
(過了5分鐘﹐爸爸再打一次電話給那個人)
VICTIM﹕HELLO﹖
爸﹕請問ABDULLAH BADAWI有在家嗎﹖
VICTIM﹕怎麼又是你﹖都跟你講了你打錯電話了﹗
爸﹕我沒打錯電話啊﹗
VICTIM﹕你這個神經病﹐你到底是誰﹖
爸﹕我是誰你還不懂﹖我是NAJIB啦﹗
VICTIM﹕%^&*$#@﹗你是NAJIB我還ANWAR咧﹗白痴﹗(大力蓋電話)
爸﹕哪﹐兒子。這個就是"生氣"。懂了嗎﹖
兒子﹕喔我懂了﹗
爸﹕現在來看下甚麼是抓狂﹗
(又打電話給那個可憐的人) 那個人一拿起電話就咆哮了﹗
VICTIM﹕你這個吃飽沒事做的神經病﹗整天打電話來干擾我﹐要不是我的電話沒有CALLER ID我早就報警了你這個變態佬。。。。
爸﹕(刻意壓低聲音)ERM。。。。請問林先生在嗎。。。。﹖
VICTIM﹕啊﹗很對不起﹗剛剛有個變態一直打電話來。。。
爸﹕喔﹐沒關係﹐請問ABDULLAH BADAWI在家嗎﹖
VICTIM﹕##$W$#^^%$E$%^$&^%R%^$^&%^$^%$﹗﹗﹗﹗﹗
這一次﹐爸爸蓋上了電話。
爸﹕你現在知道分別了吧﹗等下你媽媽要回來了﹐我們可以吃晚餐了﹗
兒子﹕可是爸爸﹐你還沒有講解甚麼是哭笑不得﹖
爸﹕喔﹐那個要等到晚上12點啦﹗
(晚上12點﹐爸爸搖醒兒子﹐然後又打電話給那個人)
VICTIM﹕HELLO。。。。。﹖(睡到一半被吵醒)
爸﹕我是ABDULLAH BADAWI﹐有誰打電話找我啊﹖
VICTIM﹕。。。。。。。。。。。。
爸爸好厲害啊﹗
当风一样的夜晚时静时吵
街道旁伫立的男人总在那时到达
身穿的还是依不变色的衬衣
昏暗的灯光延续着守候
隔楼里悠扬的琴声
拔弄着不眠的星星
原来窗下穿过的身影
是点点回忆的悲伤
当风一样的夜晚时停时走
穿着薄纱的姑娘总在那时离开
窗口留下的依是滴滴离别
轻飘曼舞的身影从来不曾停过
星光下张望的双眼
紧锁着时光的大门
原来不曾离开的过去
是把今天留在了昨天
当风一样的夜晚不停吹过
仿佛吹走的不是回忆
是心中从不停歇的痛苦
当风一样的夜晚不停吹过
仿佛吹走的不是痛苦
而是你我从来不曾见面的相识
身穿的还是依不变色的衬衣
昏暗的灯光延续着守候
隔楼里悠扬的琴声
拔弄着不眠的星星
原来窗下穿过的身影
是点点回忆的悲伤
当风一样的夜晚时停时走
穿着薄纱的姑娘总在那时离开
窗口留下的依是滴滴离别
轻飘曼舞的身影从来不曾停过
星光下张望的双眼
紧锁着时光的大门
原来不曾离开的过去
是把今天留在了昨天
当风一样的夜晚不停吹过
仿佛吹走的不是回忆
是心中从不停歇的痛苦
当风一样的夜晚不停吹过
仿佛吹走的不是痛苦
而是你我从来不曾见面的相识
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